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The statistics of failed marriages in Nigeria and the world is on a drastic rise, and one fears that in the near future, marriage will be nothing of value anymore.

Taking a deep look into the causes of failed marriages in the world, one finds five major reasons that cuts through cultures, traditions, religions and levels of education.

Below are those five major reasons.

1. Fake courtship

One of the greatest problem faced in marriage is not continuing those things that were done during courtship. Many become very boring the moment they get married, this turns their spouse off and next thing they want out. If you lives a fake life which you cannot continue after your marriage, you can be sure that your marriage will definitely come crashing. What happened to the exchange of songs, what happened to the perfectly timed calls just to know how the other person is doing?

2. Pride

The world is filled with many ‘isms’ that tend to make us lose the true essence of being human. These ideologies when brought to the home makes it a place of debates as there will always be clash of egos. Both men and women want to be worshipped in their marriages, no one wants to be looked down upon. However, demanding respect is not the same as commanding respect and that one is humble in a relationship does not in any way make them fools. The fight for equality is also a contributing factor, so we have discussions like there is no head of the family anymore, what we have is a partnership and that too do not seem to work out as most couple do not get to find a perfect sharing formula and that leads to a disaster.

3. Communication

By the time some people get married, they seem to run out of ideas as to what can be discussed and what to chat about. For some it goes worse, they ask only questions and believe somehow that that is communicating, you see the problem with this is that people get turned off by too many questions, so before you know it, one spouse would rather not talk, because he or she wants communication and not interrogation.

4. Abuse

As the stats for failed marriages is on the increase, one notices that the stats for domestic abuse also increases. So many marriages have gone beyond repair because of domestic abuse. This could be verbal or physical. It’ funny how some people are too quick to use swear/curse words on their spouses, even if it’s a joke. For some it is part of being friends but that’s the problem because even as friends such words don’t work. So one realises that in most cases when these verbal missives which were intended jokes go out, they send negative vibes and before you know it, things get really physical. Those who really love their wives/husbands will not throw negative words their way, neither will they think that fighting is a way to resolve issues. If we can watch the way we talk to our spouses, then maybe we can reduce the chances of a divorce by 50 percent.

5. Social Media Influence

The social media has its advantages, however the disadvantages tend to be mor, with bullying and other ills becoming the order of the day. Regardless of what many of us will like to believe, social media has a great influence on how we live our lives and how we handle our marriages. For some people, their marriages are modelled after what they read on social media, but they forget that everyone must study his or her own spouse and fashion out the best way to deal with them as to have a very lovely family. So next thing we know, we are comparing our marriages to that of others, you suddenly want Mr breakfast in bed and many other dreams, what if your husband is not that. We must work with the strengths of the ones we love and correct their weaknesses in love. Some may change and others may never change as it has become their way of life. It is in coming to this understanding that we can live peacefully as a family.

Regardless of what the world may say about marriage, it is a wonderful experience, one that should be nurtured and encouraged. If we fail to give it the attention it deserves, then it turns into a nightmare, home become a hell nobody is willing to return to.

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Young Achievers Awards Honors Kayode Alfred’s Aristocrat Clothings

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… As the Most Valuable Outstanding Indigenous Clothier of the Year

Kayode Alfred, a name that has become synonymous with celebrity journalism and style. A few years ago, Alfred was a notable celebrity journalist with a natural flair for capturing the best moments with dynamic words and sentences.

However, it eventually came to light that his unique style was not limited to reporting celebrity stories, but also fashion. Thus was born the title that has been used time and again to describe him: celebrity journalist and style genius. As 2023 reaches its first peak, the genius of Alfred has once again shined out in the recognition of the Young Achievers Nigeria Awards.

The 11th Young Achievers Nigeria Awards just concluded a few days ago. The event took place at the prestigious Ibis Hotel, Ikeja, Lagos, and had dignitaries from every notable industry and sector in attendance.

However, the main session of the event included the recognition of Nigeria’s top talents in several reputable industries and institutions. This is where Alfred took the stage by storm.

In the fashion category, Alfred’s Clothings brand, Aristocrat Clothings, was nominated alongside other very popular brands like Mudi Africa, Farrione Creations and Designs, and Booms Clothings.

However, when the award for the Most Valuable Outstanding Indigenous Clothier of the Year was announced, it was Alfred’s Aristocrat Clothings that got to dazzle in the limelight. Alfred was recognized for his genuinely unique designs and tasked with continuing to do his best to make the indigenous fashion industry more popular.

It goes without saying that Alfred earned the award. Since he established Aristocrat Clothings, it has been one award after another. This is primarily because of how much work he puts into it, and how well he is able to integrate his work with marketing. That is true genius for you, something his peers can try for a thousand years and never reach.

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Wife Seeks Divorce, Says “My Husband Calls Me A Snake From Marine Kingdom”

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A married woman, Patience Ibrahim, on Thursday dragged her husband, Talpha Atega, before a Customary Court in Jikwoyi, Abuja, for allegedly calling her a ‘snake’.

In her complaint, Patience told the court that Mr. Atega often referred to her as “a snake from the marine kingdom”, aside from failing in the discharge of his responsibilities as a husband.

“My husband refused to take responsibility in the house as a husband and a father; I am the one doing everything, house chores, payment of house rent, feeding, and all others.

“When I talked to him about the matter, he will start insulting me; he said I am ‘a snake from the marine kingdom’”.

”I want a divorce; I cannot continue to live with someone who has this kind of notion about me,” she fumed.

She also begged the court not to grant custody of the only child of the marriage to her husband, on moral grounds.

She expressed fears that the child might pick certain unwholesome behaviors from him.

However, in his defense, the respondent, Mr. Atega, denied all the allegations and begged the court not to grant his wife’s request for divorce.

The Judge, Mr. Labaran Gusau, has adjourned the matter until March 30, for judgment

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GTCO 2022: Africa’s Biggest Food And Drink Festival Is Back!

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… 2022 GTCO FOOD AND DRINK FESTIVAL

Guaranty Trust Holding Company Plc (GTCO Plc), is set to continue its long-running showpiece event– The Food and Drink Festival. For the 5th Edition, this headlining event will hold from Saturday, April 30 to Monday, May 02, 2022, at the GTCentre, Plot 1 Water Corporation Drive, Oniru, Lagos.

The GTCO Food and drink festival brings together the biggest chefs and food lovers from ALL OVER the world in a celebration of all things delicious with family and friends. Over the years, the Food and Drink Festival has hosted millions of people and featured enlightening and engaging masterclasses by world-renowned chefs and food business experts. This year, the free-to-attend three-day festival will feature cooking masterclasses of cuisines chosen from all around the world and over 140 free retail stalls showcasing everything from the best of Nigeria’s street food to bite-sized gourmet treats and fresh farm produce from the farmers’ market. The well-fitted play area is designed to add another layer of excitement for children and keep them meaningfully engaged.

Commenting on the 2022 GTCO Food and Drink Festival, the Group Chief Executive Officer of Guaranty Trust Holding Company Plc, Segun Agbaje, said; “Africa’s history and rich cultural heritage are beautifully reflected in its cuisines. The primary objective of the GTCO Food and Drink Festival is to showcase our diversity and industry as a people whilst delivering a sumptuous culinary experience to food enthusiasts across the continent. As our contribution to the development of local SMEs, we want to see our retail customers who also own small businesses thrive by giving them more opportunities to connect with consumers from around the world.”

He further added: “At GTCO Plc, we are committed to offering our customers and communities great experiences with every interaction and will continue to promote viable enterprises, particularly in the food and fashion industries, given the massive capabilities and countless multiplier effects inherent in these critical industry segments.”

Guaranty Trust Holding Company Plc is a leading financial services company providing banking and non-banking services including Payments, Wealth Management, and Pension Fund Management, with a presence across eleven countries spanning West and East Africa as well as the United Kingdom. The Group operates a diversified, Proudly African franchise and is renowned for its innovative approach to customer service and stakeholder engagement which has endeared the brand to millions of people across Africa and beyond. Over the years, many customers have benefited from its unique loan products including the Food Industry Credit and Fashion Industry Credit designed specifically for businesses in the food and fashion industry.

The 2022 GTCO Food and Drink Festival promises to be an experience of a lifetime. If you have been keen to try all the local street food and would like to go on exhilarating culture-filled culinary adventures, this is your chance!
For more information on this event please visit, www.foodanddrink.gtcoplc.com.

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