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The statistics of failed marriages in Nigeria and the world is on a drastic rise, and one fears that in the near future, marriage will be nothing of value anymore.

Taking a deep look into the causes of failed marriages in the world, one finds five major reasons that cuts through cultures, traditions, religions and levels of education.

Below are those five major reasons.

1. Fake courtship

One of the greatest problem faced in marriage is not continuing those things that were done during courtship. Many become very boring the moment they get married, this turns their spouse off and next thing they want out. If you lives a fake life which you cannot continue after your marriage, you can be sure that your marriage will definitely come crashing. What happened to the exchange of songs, what happened to the perfectly timed calls just to know how the other person is doing?

2. Pride

The world is filled with many ‘isms’ that tend to make us lose the true essence of being human. These ideologies when brought to the home makes it a place of debates as there will always be clash of egos. Both men and women want to be worshipped in their marriages, no one wants to be looked down upon. However, demanding respect is not the same as commanding respect and that one is humble in a relationship does not in any way make them fools. The fight for equality is also a contributing factor, so we have discussions like there is no head of the family anymore, what we have is a partnership and that too do not seem to work out as most couple do not get to find a perfect sharing formula and that leads to a disaster.

3. Communication

By the time some people get married, they seem to run out of ideas as to what can be discussed and what to chat about. For some it goes worse, they ask only questions and believe somehow that that is communicating, you see the problem with this is that people get turned off by too many questions, so before you know it, one spouse would rather not talk, because he or she wants communication and not interrogation.

4. Abuse

As the stats for failed marriages is on the increase, one notices that the stats for domestic abuse also increases. So many marriages have gone beyond repair because of domestic abuse. This could be verbal or physical. It’ funny how some people are too quick to use swear/curse words on their spouses, even if it’s a joke. For some it is part of being friends but that’s the problem because even as friends such words don’t work. So one realises that in most cases when these verbal missives which were intended jokes go out, they send negative vibes and before you know it, things get really physical. Those who really love their wives/husbands will not throw negative words their way, neither will they think that fighting is a way to resolve issues. If we can watch the way we talk to our spouses, then maybe we can reduce the chances of a divorce by 50 percent.

5. Social Media Influence

The social media has its advantages, however the disadvantages tend to be mor, with bullying and other ills becoming the order of the day. Regardless of what many of us will like to believe, social media has a great influence on how we live our lives and how we handle our marriages. For some people, their marriages are modelled after what they read on social media, but they forget that everyone must study his or her own spouse and fashion out the best way to deal with them as to have a very lovely family. So next thing we know, we are comparing our marriages to that of others, you suddenly want Mr breakfast in bed and many other dreams, what if your husband is not that. We must work with the strengths of the ones we love and correct their weaknesses in love. Some may change and others may never change as it has become their way of life. It is in coming to this understanding that we can live peacefully as a family.

Regardless of what the world may say about marriage, it is a wonderful experience, one that should be nurtured and encouraged. If we fail to give it the attention it deserves, then it turns into a nightmare, home become a hell nobody is willing to return to.

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Sanwo-Olu, RMD, Kunle Afolayan, Ashiru, Tunde Okewale, Tokunbo Wahab, Sujimoto, Others For Aristocrat Institute and Flagship Store Opening

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The year 2020 is on its last legs and what an eventful year it has been! From one bind to another, the months have unraveled themselves to the average person’s displeasure. All that is yesterday’s news. Kayode Olanshile Alfred, renowned journalist and fashion habitué, has resolved to coloured the end of the year in his signature style and sophistication.

On November the 15th, Kayode Alfred is hosting a launch to kick off the operations of his Aristocrat Flagship store, Aristocrat Institute, and a laundry and dry cleaning service company.

Insiders have reported that the event—set to hold at Heart Omole Phase 1 Estate, Ojodu, Lagos—will see top society luminaries and influencers.

Among those reported to be in the list of kahunas at the opening are political engines like Governor Babajide Sanwo-Olu and Otunba Bimbo Ashiru; celebrated pillars of the society like Tokunbo Wahab (the Special Adviser to Governor Sanwo-Olu on Education), Dr. Tunde Okewale (the founder of the prominent charity organization, Urban Lawyers), and Sijibomi Ogundele (Real Estate genius and face of Sujimoto); as well as Nollywood icons, Richard Mofe-Damijo and Kunle Afolayan.

These first-row guests are well known for their high bearing in the Nigerian society, a status that has not dimmed even a bit by their subscription to an aristocratic style of dressing. Thus, Kayode Alfred’s launch will hit the ground running.

Sure to be an eventful day, Kayode Alfred is reportedly using this avenue to lay a foundation for the coming year, during which his Aristocrat brand will permeate the nooks and crannies of the fashion industry, raising the bar and marching his contemporaries onward.

It is this progressive mindset and a creative sense that sparked the interest of the Prestige Excellence Award, earning Kayode Alfred the Innovative and Outstanding Designer of the Year 2019 award.

So November 15th is the date of the convention for aristocratic style and sophistication, and every other thing that Kayode Alfred is renowned for.

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GTBank Fashion Weekend Returns for the 5th Year, Holds Nov. 14 – 15, Call for Exhibitors Now Open

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Foremost financial institution Guaranty Trust Bank plc has confirmed that the 5th edition of Africa’s premier fashion event, the GTBank Fashion Weekend, will hold on Saturday, November 14, and Sunday, November 15, 2020.

The two-day event will feature fashion-leaders and industry experts from around the world, whilst providing hundreds of indigenous small fashion businesses with the opportunity to expand their online presence, reach new markets, and position their businesses for sustainable growth.

Themed “The Future of Fashion Retail,” the 2020 GTBank Fashion Weekend event will feature a hybrid of online and physical experiences, including Online Master Classes, an Immersive Online Shopping Experience with Free Delivery Nationwide, and a Runway Show.

In line with its vision of Promoting Enterprise, the Bank will provide an e-commerce platform that will allow hundreds of small businesses connect with thousands of consumers that are online, whilst providing fashion lovers with an immersive online shopping experience. The Bank will provide custom-built online retail stalls for free and, at the same time, fully sponsor all promotional activities to drive visibility and sales for all the fashion brands that will be a part of the 2020 GTBank Fashion Weekend.

In addition to its innovative fashion retail experiences, the 2020 GTBank Fashion Weekend will feature a series of online masterclasses facilitated by renowned fashion industry experts.
A “must-attend” for entrepreneurs and fashion enthusiasts, the masterclasses have been designed to deliver the same quality in content and engagement as previous years, through interactive webinars that will focus on exploring new and exciting ways to build and sustain fashion brands in these times and the future.

The Runway Show will also keep its place at the 2020 GTBank Fashion Weekend. Designed with current realities in mind, the Runway Show will feature a carefully curated ensemble of bold and enthralling fashion statements by Africa’s Finest Fashion Brands, delivered in a socially distanced environment.

Commenting on the 2020 GTBank Fashion Weekend, the Managing Director and Chief Executive of GTBank, Segun Agbaje, said; “Fashion is more than just art or endeavour, it is a way of life, and as we make adjustments to how we live in these new realities, we are also reimagining how we create value for small businesses, the local fashion industry and our customers through the GTBank Fashion Weekend. This year, key parts of our fashion experience will go online, but the focus remains the same; to drive the growth of our fashion industry by promoting enterprise for small businesses in the sector.”

He further stated that “At GTBank, we will continue to lend the full weight of our franchise to safeguarding lives and livelihoods not only by leading the fight to curtail the Covid-19 outbreak, but also creating and championing initiatives that help businesses and individuals thrive.”

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It’s Almost Here! Are You Ready For Nigeria’s Biggest Lifestyle Fair and Music Concerts? [READ DETAILS]

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Style by Zenith 2.0 will hold on the 29th of November till 1st December, 2019 at the Eko Energy City (By Eko Atlantic) Ahmadu Bello Way, Victoria Island Lagos. To register, simply visit www.zenithbank.com/style

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