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Nigeria’s Foremost Matchmaking Mistress, Mrs Omolara Kudayisi-Emeralds, has opened up on what led her into becoming a relationship coach and a certified matchmaking mistress.

Lara, as she’s fondly called spoke with PorscheClassy Media in an exclusive interview and she bared it all on her life as a teenager, how she got heartbroken 14 times, had 15 abortions and eventually got married to a great husband.

She also speaks on her forthcoming event scheduled for December 17th, a gathering of singles from different parts of the country.

Read full interview below:
1. Did anything in your childhood contribute to what you do now?

Yeah, I was always reading mills and boom novels, Thrills and Boom, Hearts, Hints and I loved romantic movies. In my secondary school days, I was always asking people how they would spend their valentine or what they would look out for in choosing a spouse when they are ready. I was this love struck child who loved Happily Ever After stories until that was shattered at 19 when I got pregnant in my second year in the polytechnic.

2. Tell us more about yourself?

My name is Lara Kudayisi-Emeralds. I am the Matchmaking Mistress. I help singles attract their dream partners and walk down the aisle in the shortest time possible. I am also the founder of The Complete Singles Club, an almost 4,000 member club. I am married with 2 kids.

3.You are virtually Nigeria’s queen of Match-making, how have u been to achieve this feat?

Well, I decided to bridge a gap in my industry; the Relationship and Marriage Industry. I have been a relationship coach for over four years and from coaching my clients, I realized that there is a need that nobody is meeting in that space, and I decided to bridge that gap and since then It’s been great.

4. What led you into becoming a relationship coach?

I decided to become a relationship coach because I wanted to prevent people from going through what I went through. I had a child at 19, 14 heartbreaks and 15 abortions before I got married. For a very long time when I was dating, I was just groping in the dark or doing trial and error like so many people do today. I had no adequate knowledge of what was required to attract your dream partner or run a successful relationship, hence my many relationships and heartbreaks. Thank God that I realized my my mistakes of how I was emotionally broken which was why I kept attracting broken people just like me who eventually break my heart. I got fixed and everything turned around for me emotionally. I wanted to help people get adequate knowledge and help them live happily Ever After. This is what gave birth to starting a club; The Complete Singles Club.

5.Since you started your career , how has the reception been?

Well, Nigerians are very skeptical when it comes to sharing their problems with strangers irrespective of what title you have. So, people signing up for counselling or Relationship Coaching is still relatively low. Same with Professional Matchmaking. People’s Orientation of Matchmaking is the old school way of when a concerned family member forces someone down your throat and expect you to get married to them because both of you are single. Professional Matchmaking is totally different. It involves the Matchmaker matching you with someone whom they have run some tests on and they are convinced that they are a great match for you based on professional parameters.

6. Was there ever a time you felt like giving up

Oh yes, just like every other business around. There are times when you feel like throwing in towel because things are not panning out like you wish, however that could be the teething stage.

When I first started, it took a while trying to convince people that this was okay to venture into without any side effects. So many people are finding it hard to accept Relationship Coaching or Matchmaking because of so many mind barriers. But since I know that for a new venture to thrive, you have to create awareness first in order to educate people about it. I write different articles on my blog and in different platforms sensitizing as many people as I can reach to educate them on the benefits of Professional Matchmaking and trust me the response has greatly improved.

7.What is the greatest reward you have ever gotten for what you do?

I am rewarded when people find happiness with my coaching and help. A lot of us are the architect of our problems. For instance for a Single person to live a fulfilling life and find true love, you need to 1) Have great self confidence 2) Pursue a passion 3) Be Emotionally Whole 4)Connect Effectively with others.

So many people have self confidence issues and this affects the way they live their lives and the way other people including the opposite sex percieve them. Meanwhile, some people’s self confidence have been damaged in their childhood or growing up years.

Secondly is Pursuing a Passion. A lot of people do not know that doing what you love greatly has everything to do with living a fulfilled life and even attracting the love of your life. When you are doing your passion, you are happier, you are more receptive to people and trust me happiness is contagious. People would want to be a part of your life unlike when you are frustrated on your job or unfulfilled. You are prone to depression, frustration or bitterness. These negative emotions weighs you down and repel people from you.

Thirdly, Emotional Wholeness is almost everything if not all. This is the reason why lots of single people have issues in relationships.

Like I said earlier, lots of people were damaged from childhood. Any child that has been raped, molested, abused and all have a greater chances of having emotional troubles if they are not treated properly. Same for children who lost their parents early or children that were verbally or emotional abused or even bullied when they were young. This tend to cause a lot of issues that springs up later in their adult years. It causes lot of giant issues like insecurity, emptiness, inability to accept love, trust issues and so many bigger issues. So when they are in relationships, all these show up and they keep having broken relationships and most times they blame the other party not knowing that they are the real problem.

Finally, Connecting Effectively with Others is key in the whole equation of living happily ever after. People need to learn basic skills or connection like friendliness, effective communication, mutual respect and so on. When you have great self confidence, pursue a deep passion and become emotionally whole, then connecting effectively becomes easier. By then you don’t read meanings to what people say or do and you can give your all to someone without looking over your shoulders.

8. What are some of the challenges you’ve faced in your line of work so far?

People wanting to skip the process of treating their issues before being matchmade. I don’t just hook people up, I make sure I run sessions with you to ascertain potential issues that may give you problem in your relationship or marriage. I like to treat that before I can introduce you to someone, but people want to skip that process and just get introduced to someone which might eventually cause them to go back to square one of being alone.

The truth is if you you don’t deal with your previous baggage, it would definitely affect the relationship that you are about to get into. I always have to convince people on the need to trust the process and follow through.

9. As a relationship coach, what’s your take on Toke Makinwa’s new book and her tell-it-all about her ex-hubby ?

Toke poured out her heart in the book and spilled so many private issues concerning her life and marriage. It’s not our culture here so I understand people’s outrage on it. However, I’d like for us to look beyond that and see a little girl that lost her parents at a tender age. That is the beginning of all her issues and until she gets help to successfully deal with that truama, she might likely repeat all her mistakes all over again.

Like she admitted in the book, she has daddy issues and she is looking for her daddy in a man who cannot fill that void. Someone needs to read that book and truly understand what she is not saying before you comment or conclude on your summation.

10. What makes you unique in your field ?

What makes me unique is that I don’t fix the symptoms of an issue, I deal with it from the root. Apart from being a relationship coach, I am also a Cognitive Behavioral Therapist with training in Neuro Linguistic Programming .I don’t just give you what to do but I deal with your history and guide you to make the best decision that serves you.

A lot of Relationship Counselors and Coaches tell you what to do without them really knowing the depth or nature of your problems and thereby give quick fixes and solutions that don’t work.

11. Why do you think we’ve got lots of single ladies above the age of 30 these days while the young ones are getting married ?

Well, I really don’t think that statistics is true about younger ladies getting married. I think we have a generational issue of women liberation. Women are being enlightened and empowered and this as much as its a strength could also be a problem if not channeled accordingly.

So many women are beginning to see the need to remain unmarried until a man who truly matches their education, exposure, financial status and so on comes along. The good thing about this is that the lady knows her onions and would likely not be a liability or a pushover in marriage. She totally understands her power and uses it well. The flip side to that is that she might not be able to recognize a great man who isn’t in the finished state that she is looking for.

A great man may not be all polished or refined like she wants. However, if she could only be patient enough to check his values and potentials, she would know that he is gold that is in the process of shinning. So, she ignores the good man and keeps chasing shadows all over just like I did way back when I was single.

12. List 5 things that every single lady/guy needs to do to get hooked and married in 2017.

1) Build up their Self Confidence
2) Pursue a fulfilling passion
3) Invest in Emotional Wholeness
4) Learn how to connect effectively with others

13. What do we expect from you in 2017?

In 2017, I am coming out with my own TV show which we are already shooting right now. It’s a show that fuses relationship with Entertainment. It helps to solve major relationship issues whilst it also entertains you.

My club, The Complete Singles Club would also metamorphose from being a club to a movement. I have the passion to educate, reform and connect singles for a Happily Ever After and that is what we would doing on a larger scale in 2017.


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Style by Zenith 2.0 will hold on the 29th of November till 1st December, 2019 at the Eko Energy City (By Eko Atlantic) Ahmadu Bello Way, Victoria Island Lagos. To register, simply visit

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Style By Zenith: Zenith Bank Calls For Model Auditions [APPLY WITHIN]




The audition for male and female models that will participate in the much-anticipated Style by Zenith 2.0 fashion shows is scheduled to hold as follows:

Date: 15th of November, 2019

Time: 9am prompt

Venue: Balmoral Hall, Federal Palace Hotel, Victoria Island, Lagos State.

Find out more details in the accompanying fliers.

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GTBank Fashion Weekend 2019: Get Ready For Africa’s Biggest Fashion Experience [VIDEO]

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This November, industry leaders, style connoisseurs, and fashion enthusiasts from across the globe will converge in Lagos, Nigeria for the 4th edition of the GTBank Fashion Weekend. Holding Saturday the 9th and Sunday the 10th of November 2019 at the GTCentre, Plot 1, Water Corporation Drive, Oniru, the 2-day event will put a spotlight on Africa’s emerging fashion industry whilst showcasing the talent and creativity of indigenous small businesses in the fashion space.

Since 2016, the GTBank Fashion Weekend has been at the forefront of promoting enterprise in Africa’s rapidly growing fashion industry. Over the years, the event has brought together renowned fashion experts and personalities to interact with hundreds of thousands of young Africans passionate about fashion and entrepreneurship. This year, the GTBank Fashion Weekend, which is free to attend, will feature over 30 distinguished fashion leaders, designers, and industry experts, whilst providing more than 130 indigenous small businesses with free stalls to showcase and sell Africa’s finest ensemble of apparel and fashion accessories.

Attendees at the 2019 GTBank Fashion Weekend will be treated to an exciting repertoire of fashion moments, from fashion and entrepreneurial masterclasses facilitated by internationally renowned fashion experts to enthralling runway shows that will present the latest in fashion styles and design trends. There will also be pop-up stands where talented indigenous designers will display their works and interact with some of Africa’s most passionate fashionistas, an Arts & Crafts Village that showcases the beauty and dexterity of traditional African design.

Commenting on the 2019 GTBank Fashion Weekend, the Chief Executive Officer and Managing Director of Guaranty Trust Bank plc, Segun Agbaje, said; “Africa is home to some of the most creative fashion talents on the planet, and we are delighted and proud to provide them with a global platform that connects them to the world. As we work towards the 4th edition of the biggest fashion showcase in Africa, our goal is to not only showcase the wealth of talent, innovation and enterprise that abound in Africa’s fashion space, but to also grow the continent’s contribution to the global fashion industry by empowering budding entrepreneurs at home with everything they need to thrive on the world stage.

He further stated that “At the heart of the GTBank Fashion Weekend is our vision of promoting enterprise in industries where we believe that we can help small businesses grow and dominate. In fashion, as well as in food and the creative industry, we see not just the amazing talents and passion of our people, but how, by championing their entrepreneurial spirit, we can enrich millions of lives, uplift communities and grow our economy.”

GTBank has consistently played a leading role in Africa’s banking industry. The Bank is regarded by industry watchers as one of the best run financial institutions across its subsidiary countries and serves as a role model within the financial service industry due to its bias for world-class corporate governance standards, excellent service quality, and innovation. The Bank is also going beyond the traditional understanding of Corporate Social Responsibility as corporate philanthropy by intervening in key economic sectors through non-profit consumer-focused fairs and capacity building initiatives for small businesses.

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