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The statistics of failed marriages in Nigeria and the world is on a drastic rise, and one fears that in the near future, marriage will be nothing of value anymore.

Taking a deep look into the causes of failed marriages in the world, one finds five major reasons that cuts through cultures, traditions, religions and levels of education.

Below are those five major reasons.

1. Fake courtship

One of the greatest problem faced in marriage is not continuing those things that were done during courtship. Many become very boring the moment they get married, this turns their spouse off and next thing they want out. If you lives a fake life which you cannot continue after your marriage, you can be sure that your marriage will definitely come crashing. What happened to the exchange of songs, what happened to the perfectly timed calls just to know how the other person is doing?

2. Pride

The world is filled with many ‘isms’ that tend to make us lose the true essence of being human. These ideologies when brought to the home makes it a place of debates as there will always be clash of egos. Both men and women want to be worshipped in their marriages, no one wants to be looked down upon. However, demanding respect is not the same as commanding respect and that one is humble in a relationship does not in any way make them fools. The fight for equality is also a contributing factor, so we have discussions like there is no head of the family anymore, what we have is a partnership and that too do not seem to work out as most couple do not get to find a perfect sharing formula and that leads to a disaster.

3. Communication

By the time some people get married, they seem to run out of ideas as to what can be discussed and what to chat about. For some it goes worse, they ask only questions and believe somehow that that is communicating, you see the problem with this is that people get turned off by too many questions, so before you know it, one spouse would rather not talk, because he or she wants communication and not interrogation.

4. Abuse

As the stats for failed marriages is on the increase, one notices that the stats for domestic abuse also increases. So many marriages have gone beyond repair because of domestic abuse. This could be verbal or physical. It’ funny how some people are too quick to use swear/curse words on their spouses, even if it’s a joke. For some it is part of being friends but that’s the problem because even as friends such words don’t work. So one realises that in most cases when these verbal missives which were intended jokes go out, they send negative vibes and before you know it, things get really physical. Those who really love their wives/husbands will not throw negative words their way, neither will they think that fighting is a way to resolve issues. If we can watch the way we talk to our spouses, then maybe we can reduce the chances of a divorce by 50 percent.

5. Social Media Influence

The social media has its advantages, however the disadvantages tend to be mor, with bullying and other ills becoming the order of the day. Regardless of what many of us will like to believe, social media has a great influence on how we live our lives and how we handle our marriages. For some people, their marriages are modelled after what they read on social media, but they forget that everyone must study his or her own spouse and fashion out the best way to deal with them as to have a very lovely family. So next thing we know, we are comparing our marriages to that of others, you suddenly want Mr breakfast in bed and many other dreams, what if your husband is not that. We must work with the strengths of the ones we love and correct their weaknesses in love. Some may change and others may never change as it has become their way of life. It is in coming to this understanding that we can live peacefully as a family.

Regardless of what the world may say about marriage, it is a wonderful experience, one that should be nurtured and encouraged. If we fail to give it the attention it deserves, then it turns into a nightmare, home become a hell nobody is willing to return to.

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Signal Frabrics Opens New Branch In VI, Lagos [PHOTO]

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Labake Adeola, the industrious fashion entrepreneur has carved a niche for herself among fashion buffs. According to her, being rich shouldn’t be confused with possessing panache but many a deep-pocket mistake extravagance for elegance.

“You do not have to be extravagant to be elegant. At Signal Fabric, everyone is classic. Its not the price of your fabrics that stands you out, its what you make with it and how you can spice it up that translate to elegance; it is what differentiates the commoner from the classical.”, and that’s what SIGNAL FABRICS is known for.

Style becomes the essence of every woman, according to Labake. Thus like an emperor of immeasurable chic, her fascination with good fabrics and elaborate lines comes alive in her range of bespoke latest and talk of the town attires. Although her specialty encompasses formal and informal female clothings.

There is no gainsaying Labake’s love for classy couture blossomed quite early in her youth; according to her, she developed a fascination with fashion when she started over 20 years ago and have customers across board. “We started over 20 years ago and have customers across board and we have been able to keep them all these years”.

“Anything you do it’s always best to be upright, sincerity, openness and customer satisfaction has been our key factors for sustenance”.

Labake’s love for fashion and taste for quality was copied from her mum, whom they both started Signal Fabrics from Alade Market in Ikeja Lagos, but the mother did not live long to see it blossom.

Signal Fabrics officially opens its new branch to clients from all over, penultimate Sunday, located on Ajose Adeogun street, Victoria Island Lagos, with its head office at Martins Street, Lagos Island.

The event had in attendance her family, friends, long time customers, society women, and well-wishers who came out to celebrate with the mother of three wonderful boys.

Amongst the guests were, Yeye Yetunde Ogbemudia of Nodony Fashion House, Olori Tokunbo Eko, Socialite Wosilat Seriki, among other several faces at the event.

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American Singer, Bobby V, Arrives Nigeria For ‘Style By Zenith’ Fashion Fair

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Bobby Wilson, an American singer better known as Bobby V, is in Nigeria to perform at a fashion fair tagged ‘Style by Zenith’.

Bobby V arrived Lagos on Thursday alongside members of his crew ahead of the fair scheduled for Saturday and Sunday.

The fair, which will take place at the Open Ground by Four Points Hotel, is a two-day lifestyle, beauty, fashion, accessories, and entertainment fair.

‘Style by Zenith’ is a collaboration between Virtual Xchange Limited and Zenith Bank Plc.

Speaking of the event, Kaycee Kennedy, CEO of Virtual Xchange Limited said: “The collaboration with Zenith Bank to develop the ‘Style by Zenith’ platform not only emphasizes our resolve to build and strengthen the fashion ecosystem but to drive the business of Fashion.

“We need to heed the call to focus on Fashion Trade, by making fashion Africa’s biggest export to the world.”

‘Style by Zenith’ will feature runway shows headlined by Nigerian and international models who will be accessorised by top designers and beauticians.

There will also be an exhibition of beauty and lifestyle products, food and confectioneries, as well as performances by top Nigerian artistes.

The Zenith model search, an initiative billed to unfurl in 2019, will also be launched at the fashion fair.

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Reasons Why You Should Attend The ‘Style By Zenith’ Fair 2018 !!!

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Fellas, you don’t wanna miss this Life Time Opportunity!!!

Attending this Prestigious Event will help you improve your Lifestyle and give you all you need to be that man/woman that you want the world to see…

Ever wanted to SLAY with your choice of LIFESTYLE???
This is the Event to be….

Are you a Purveyor and you seek to sell your Lifestyle Products to a Large number of People and make more sales, which in turn results to more money??
This is the Event to be….

Are you still contemplating on Attending??? 🤔😊

Consider The Following Attractions:

° You get access to a wide variety of Lifestyle Products & Services along with Quality Discounts for People that make Payments using Zenith Bank Cards, Scan to Pay or *966# on POS.

° Networking with High Minds & Different People from all walks of life.

° Have Explicit Fun as you wish, as 2018 comes to a Close.

° Performances by Nigerian Artistes.

° Runway Model Display.

° Play Area for Children with Age Appropriate Entertainment & and Lots More….

Excited?? 
We’re too…

We STYLE …. You SLAY!!!

It’s Happening Live on the 29th & 30th of December 2018 @ Prince Alaba Oniru Road, After Four Points by Sheraton, Oniru Estate.

Time 9am Prompt!!!

Style By Zenith Fair 2018

Live your Best Life….

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