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The statistics of failed marriages in Nigeria and the world is on a drastic rise, and one fears that in the near future, marriage will be nothing of value anymore.

Taking a deep look into the causes of failed marriages in the world, one finds five major reasons that cuts through cultures, traditions, religions and levels of education.

Below are those five major reasons.

1. Fake courtship

One of the greatest problem faced in marriage is not continuing those things that were done during courtship. Many become very boring the moment they get married, this turns their spouse off and next thing they want out. If you lives a fake life which you cannot continue after your marriage, you can be sure that your marriage will definitely come crashing. What happened to the exchange of songs, what happened to the perfectly timed calls just to know how the other person is doing?

2. Pride

The world is filled with many ‘isms’ that tend to make us lose the true essence of being human. These ideologies when brought to the home makes it a place of debates as there will always be clash of egos. Both men and women want to be worshipped in their marriages, no one wants to be looked down upon. However, demanding respect is not the same as commanding respect and that one is humble in a relationship does not in any way make them fools. The fight for equality is also a contributing factor, so we have discussions like there is no head of the family anymore, what we have is a partnership and that too do not seem to work out as most couple do not get to find a perfect sharing formula and that leads to a disaster.

3. Communication

By the time some people get married, they seem to run out of ideas as to what can be discussed and what to chat about. For some it goes worse, they ask only questions and believe somehow that that is communicating, you see the problem with this is that people get turned off by too many questions, so before you know it, one spouse would rather not talk, because he or she wants communication and not interrogation.

4. Abuse

As the stats for failed marriages is on the increase, one notices that the stats for domestic abuse also increases. So many marriages have gone beyond repair because of domestic abuse. This could be verbal or physical. It’ funny how some people are too quick to use swear/curse words on their spouses, even if it’s a joke. For some it is part of being friends but that’s the problem because even as friends such words don’t work. So one realises that in most cases when these verbal missives which were intended jokes go out, they send negative vibes and before you know it, things get really physical. Those who really love their wives/husbands will not throw negative words their way, neither will they think that fighting is a way to resolve issues. If we can watch the way we talk to our spouses, then maybe we can reduce the chances of a divorce by 50 percent.

5. Social Media Influence

The social media has its advantages, however the disadvantages tend to be mor, with bullying and other ills becoming the order of the day. Regardless of what many of us will like to believe, social media has a great influence on how we live our lives and how we handle our marriages. For some people, their marriages are modelled after what they read on social media, but they forget that everyone must study his or her own spouse and fashion out the best way to deal with them as to have a very lovely family. So next thing we know, we are comparing our marriages to that of others, you suddenly want Mr breakfast in bed and many other dreams, what if your husband is not that. We must work with the strengths of the ones we love and correct their weaknesses in love. Some may change and others may never change as it has become their way of life. It is in coming to this understanding that we can live peacefully as a family.

Regardless of what the world may say about marriage, it is a wonderful experience, one that should be nurtured and encouraged. If we fail to give it the attention it deserves, then it turns into a nightmare, home become a hell nobody is willing to return to.

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GTBank Fashion Weekend: Sketch To Fame; A Call for Aspiring African Fashion Designers

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Are you are an aspiring fashion designer? Can you create amazing fashion sketches? The Sketch to Fame competition is for you!

Organized by GTBank, the Sketch to Fame Competition is offering young African fashion designers the opportunity to have their original collection produced and showcased at the 2018 GTBank Fashion Weekend.

To participate in the Sketch to Fame competition, share five of your original sketches for a new collection on social media (Twitter, Instagram or Facebook) using the hashtag #Sketch2Fame. A panel of judges will shortlist 10 participants who will move to the next stage and the audience will decide the final 3 entries whose collections will be produced and showcased at the 2018 GTBank Fashion weekend.

Sketch to Fame challenge is part of the GTBank Fashion Weekend initiative created to promote enterprise in the African fashion industry.

Entries close on Wednesday, September 26th, 2018.

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Pastor Chris Oyakhilome’s Daughter To Tie The Knot With Her Ghanaian Heartrob In October

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UK based gospel artiste and daughter of Pastor Chris Oyakhilome, Carrissa Sharon Oyakhilome is set to tie the knot with her Ghanaian heartrob, Philip Frimpong, co-founder of ONUA, a fast growing online advertising company that promotes West African artistry.

The wedding date was announced on a Facebook page “We love CSO” on Tuesday.

“Save the date, Oct 6 .”it reads.

According to members of the Christ Embassy Church, Pastor Oyakhilome confirmed the date during service last week.

The couple got engaged last year in London.

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SPONSORED POST: Feel Like Royalty In The New B.O.B Elite Wear [PHOTOS]

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Fashion lovers in the Lagos have something to look forward to, as fast rising and dynamic duo of Benjamin Chinedu Okoye and Benedict Chigozie Okoye debut their new collection ‘B.O.B Elite Wear’.

Elite wear is a simple yet casual touch of brilliance; it is made up entirely of Cashmere, which is more stronger than wool and absorbs in less heat than cotton, hence can be worn for all occasions, both summer and cool seasons as well. Making it the perfect fashion item as it fits the constant change of the Lagos weather.

Its intricate weaving makes it appealing to the older generation who are not into outlandish designs, and the vibrant coloursin which they are made in seem to be a pull for the young and young at heart all together.

In all, the B.O.B Elite collections definitely seem to be incapable of doing any wrong, from walking the red carpets, attending an evening gala, a Sunday service or simply deciding to go with a casual outfit while looking elegant.

The B.O.B elite wear seem to tick all those marks.

With patronage from high ranking A list celebrities like E-money. Kcee , Alex Ekubo, Innocent Idibia (2 baba) among several others.

The B.O.B crew seem to be riding on from the success of their Stone Crested and Petal collections and just recently, from their debut of the B.O.B Suede Jacket.

All this seems to have been geared towards the making of one elegant and yet simple outfit desired to meet the need of every lover of elegance and will no doubt find its way into the wardrobes of every fashion enthusiast and lover of looking good.

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